I don’t know about you, but I’ve noticed that the only time I ever post blogs is because I’ve been rubbed the wrong way about something or another… which is fine by me, because I’m a passionate person and I’m a TRUE believer in self expression.
Today, I would like to touch on something that I’m sure A LOT of good women (that take care of themselves) have to contend with, when faced with “serial dating”. I myself, am a single 32 year young woman, with no kids, a good job, medical benefits, 401K… etc… I know how to cook, clean, and a few other things (mind ya business on that last one… only “special individuals” see that side. Moving forward… the circle of women that I run with are all pretty much on the same level. Some are married, with children (fortunate heffas! Just kidding on the heffa part) some divorced and some are just single mother’s paving the way for their child(ren) or they’re just like me, single successful and have their act’s together. On the outside looking in, we APPEAR to be high maintenance because we either drive nice cars, have nice homes, dress well, and/or are label whores (which goes back to dressing well). Ummm, I was making a point here… Oh…. I remember….
Then you have the women, that have 1, 2, 3, 4, or 5 (heaven forbid) kids and living at home with their mother, brother, and his girlfriend, and Uncle Rodney (I’m just giving a situation… all names and references are figments of my imagination, unfortunately some of these situations actually exist). This woman, has no real aspirations in life, no job, no education (and not trying to get one), no REAL sense of self, more than likely receiving some sort of public assistance or hustles for a living (i.e. boosting, street pharmacist, credit card fraud etc…) THEN you have the WIRE WALKING (HOOD) RATS…. these women usually consist of some of the afore mentioned AND the following characteristics… she’s somewhat independent (sometimes). She suffers SEVERELY from a ghetto/hood mentality, she might have one or two kids that are half her age (because she was fast and hot in the butt growing up and no one ever took the time to tell her until AFTER she had her second child), and has a lot of “uncles” coming through to “rock the spot”. She has no idea of self, self preservation, or what her value is. She gives men any and everything they want from her, (i.e. sex, money), and doesn’t make them earn her affections, time, or anything else for that matter, because she’s the pursuer. And for the most part all she gets in return is hard d*ck, wet ass and bubblegum. Yet, all of these women I have just named in this paragraph have NO PROBLEM meeting, and getting a man…. I said GETTING, not KEEPING.
Now, this is my problem with the topic of the day… Why is it so hard for decent women (such as myself), to meet a man that would consider her as his equal and not his adversary? It has recently been brought to my attention, that a good woman is too much work for the common everyday man. Men no longer are looking for a challenge. Which is sad. I’ve noticed of late, that most (not all,) men tend to gravitate toward the women that he can “rescue” and mold into the woman he wants her to be, and/or gives him whatever he wants/desires… In other words, a weak minded woman. I guess that’s supposed to be a the cake he gets to eat, right? Whatever.
Why do the real women, who are self sufficient, not relying on anyone do anything for them, have it so hard when it comes to dating? Now this next comment goes back to my blog “Starters and Finishers”…. I constantly hear men talk about they want an independent, confident, responsible woman. But when that woman is sitting right in front of his face, he folds, or chooses to be with the other type(s) women that I previously mentioned . Which further validates, that men REALLY do not know what they want.
But like the saying goes, women are like apples. All of the good ones are at the top, and the not so good are at the bottom. And guys choose to go after the bad ones on the bottom of tree because it takes more effort and work to get to the good ones on top. Thus, good women being too much work. And honestly, I am offended by this because I myself (including women that I know) all know what we can bring to the table in a relationship. But at the same time, women like myself, doesn’t want a man that isn’t willing to work for us because in the end we’re left unappreciated.
Now…. I really would like to touch on these wire walking rats… the ones that do any and everything for a man…. and if you get mad then YES I am talking about you. If you’re a female and reading this, whether or not if you’re the female I’m speaking of, you know what I’m talking about… Listen and learn… IF YOU HAVE CHILDREN…. WHY would you give a GROWN MAN money, and you’re not in a committed relationship with him, or his wife… ?(I think that covers it) USE THAT MONEY TO DO SOMETHING PRODUCTIVE FOR YOUR CHILD(REN).
And men… (those of you that do this)… how do you feel as a man, taking money from a single mother? What kind of a REAL man does that? I have the answer for you…. a trifling man. And again, if you’re getting mad… then YES I’m talking about you.
Real women, knows and understands her role, limitations, and responsibility she holds in a relationship… taking care of a GROWN man is NOT one of them. Not making a man respect her, and wait for her and treat her the way our grandfathers treated our grandmothers makes it really hard for the women that do. The homely county recipients, and wire walking rats are making it too easy for men. And it’s f*cked up for the real women, who are caught in the midst of this thing called dating.
STOP MAKING IT SO DAMN EASY FOR THESE MEN. MAKE A MAN BE ONE! Unless he’s a cripple, mentally disabled, or shares a blood line with you, you have NO business doing for him like you were the one born with a penis, and he with a vagina.
It’s because of these women that the real women can meet a man, but don’t get substantial, valuable relationships… but the difference between the wire walking rats, vs. the real genuine women… is when the real women do get substantial valuable relationships…. we KEEP our man. WWR’s (wire walking rats) like I said… they only get hard d*ck, wet ass and bubblegum.
Finish ya breakfast.